Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves (1 Peter 3:3-5).
Men can typically believe that a woman is beautiful primarily through her outward appearance. They can easily be deceived into thinking that if she appears to be attractive on the outside, then her inward appearance is equally stunning.
As the scripture verse says, “charm is cunning.” One of the earliest understandings of charm is that it is the “ability to recite or cast a magic spell” and cunning can mean “skillfully deceitful”. So, if we put this phrase together it can imply the learned art of practicing deceit by way of magic.
This verse also says that “beauty is fleeting” which means “fickle, shifting, or unstable”, and as we know our outward appearance changes with age. So, this begs the question, why do men demand outward beauty, and why do women fall for it?
A woman who fears the Lord is to be commended, for she recognizes the necessity of God’s authority in her life. She is not dependent upon her own flesh, but rather relies on the Spirit of God to lead her. She has learned not to rely on her outward appearance, but rather spends time allowing God to refine her inward beauty.
As this daughter matures, she wants to do what is important to God. She values what God values, so she allows him to cultivate her “gentle and quiet spirit” within her. Therefore, she is to be praised – highly valued – and sought after – because she reflects God’s nature, and this honors God, and God shines through her with His continued glory.
Heavenly Father, may you continue to reveal to us what makes a woman beautiful in your eyes. Change our perspective, so that it lines up with your Word, and for your glory. Amen.
(references: Online Etymology Dictionary)